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Thursday, February 27, 2025

How To Write - by David Ogilvy

 

Having been raised in the Ogilvy school of thinking in advertising since the 80's, my lineage is kept alive to this day through regular correspondences with Ken Brady, my ex-boss, mentor & trainer. Ken was reporting directly to David as Head of Training for Ogilvy offices worldwide for over 20 years. 















Everything I know, fear or is proud about writing has been documented in the article, which was published as a post on my LinkedIn profile in May 2023. 


       The Writing Business. The Business of Writing - by Peter Gan


         The most daunting professional skill of all time is and will be the skill of writing.

Business writing to be precise.

It is also the most feared.

It is what separates the winners and the also-rans.

Perhaps this is why the pen is really mightier than the sword.

It is difficult enough to be proficient in the language of business- English, what more the challenge of writing to communicate clearly especially when your livelihood depends on it.

Because of fear, most people just wing it, ignore it, or simply skip it to avoid it by dictating a half-baked verbal brief. Thereby living only half an existence avoiding the fullness of life.

But those who step up, face up to the challenge, are the ones who truly live their lives to the fullest. These are the ones who excel not only in their careers but also in life.

In the business world or in any field, writing clearly, concisely and accurately is the only evidence of clear intentions to achieve anything. The alternative is a verbal brief, which is “not worth the paper it's written on.” It’s basically a cop out. A zero sum game because no one can be expected to remember a verbal brief unless it’s a recording. Still, nothing beats a well written brief. It wields power and commands respect.

Due to our outdated system of education, most of our young don't know how. Even if they think they know, it's probably outdated and archaic, worse broken.

Whether you are in business or not, you would need to communicate clearly, precisely and effectively to get ahead. Verbally or in writing.

I was practically thrust into the business world, fresh after dropping out of college.

Business writing paralysed me even though my English was above average. 

My fear was #2- Confidence. I was trying to impress with my above average English comprehension but I knew wasn’t ready to write beautiful prose to match my ego. I tried nonetheless and I was miserable. Constructing a simple letter took hours if not days. It took me a long time to remove the “I” from my writing to focus on the message.

That finally got me unstuck.

Here are a few practical truths that got me to write better and to really enjoy the task even more;

Writing for Everyone.

#1. It’s about communication. Not writing.

If you can communicate in the most basic form, you can write. So write the way you would talk.

If you can put a sentence together in speech you can put sentences on paper.

#2. Clarity not confidence.

Write to communicate not to impress. It's about what is important not who.

It's about allowing the message to emerge not the writer.

#3. Brevity not length.

Writing is really short and sweet.

The best reports, letters, memos, briefs are the shortest and yet the most comprehensive.

Being brief makes you choose your words and sentences more carefully to convey your message more effectively.

#4. Substance not style.

Substance beats style any day.

Writing with intention and purpose will get you to the core of the message without wasting time with unnecessary words and phrases.

#5. Personal not Professional.

The best writing is mostly done out of personal commitment to excellence and authenticity.

If the person communicating the message is fully committed to her/his writing, the result will be outstanding.


Or you can take up a course in business writing. It’s a thriving business I am told.


Friday, February 14, 2025

Rethinking Valentine's Day

 Happy Valentine's Day.


gfhX
















February 14th arrives, and we are told that love must be expressed through expensive dinners, overpriced flowers, and grand gestures. 

But isn’t love, more than just a commercial spectacle?

Love isn’t about a day of forced romance. It’s about showing up every day—with kindness, respect, and consistency. 

It’s about the moments that don’t make it to Instagram. The silent support. The thoughtful gestures. The everyday grind.

This goes out to those who pretend to be saints for a day but act otherwise the rest of the year—Happy Valentine’s Day, @$$holes.

For the rest of us, let’s celebrate love in a way that actually matters—genuinely, authentically, and beyond just one day.




Friday, January 03, 2025

Ode To You For The New Year

Happy New Year 2025

Created by gfhX

Ode to You for the New Year.

If you’re like me and most wannabe overachievers reflecting on the year’s achievements or disappointments, you’re welcome to join in the annual ritual of self-congratulations or self-crucifixion.

Before you indulge in comforting or cursing yourself with the year’s hits or misses, know that you have done enough if not too much, in pursuit of those illusive dreams you think your happiness hinges on. Everything happens or does not happen for a reason. Be thankful.

The past year has already been marked by significant global events, from political and social unrest to advancement in technology chiefly artificial intelligence.

If you’re still reading this,(congratulations, most people don’t read) you will know deep down you have done enough no matter how little or much you think you have expended. We have already arrived at year’s end or in a new one.

So sit back, relax and conspire now to contemplate on how much less you should do in the new year and spend more time doing absolutely nothing.

When you seriously focus on doing nothing, which is probably the most difficult thing to do, you'll achieve more.

In essence, if you’re doing too much you’re probably doing the wrong things.

So if you’ll just slow down, sit in a quiet place and spend some time with yourself you will invariably emerge to do the necessary with consciousness and presence.

What got us here won’t get us there.

2024 showed us the rapid advancement of Ai at dizzying speeds. It’s showing us Ai can do almost anything we can. We probably have to discard everything or every tool we used to get us here. The only thing we have left is ourself as individuals.

We are being stripped of our capabilities starting with our thinking, then they will eventually take over our doing or undoing.

As you read this, factories in China running full capacity 24/7 are called ‘dark factories’ simply because they are fully roboticized, no lighting is required save for a man and a dog. The dog’s job is to prevent the man from touching the buttons. The man’s job is to feed the dog. This is not a joke in China. Young Chinese entrepreneur Eric Chen, founder of Kingswills, a materials science company said in the New York Times recently that; “Probably in the future the competition for the US is not China, but A.I. It is coming for both of us.”

Ai is Coming For Us.

As we stand at a crossroads, humanity is faced with the echoes of its past while holding onto the promise of a hopeful future. We are navigating the complexities of progress, and it’s becoming clear: the age of AI is here, transforming the way we live.

In this fast-evolving world, we must ask ourselves: what truly brings us joy?

It is time to pursue those passions with relentless determination.

Now is the moment to confront our thoughts and fears, recognizing them for what they are — often mere stories of regret and anxiety that play on an endless loop in our mind.

Let us release this mental clutter and embrace the present. Our most authentic selves are waiting to emerge,  to create.

Remember, we do not need to chase after more. Everything we seek is already within us.

Whether you connect with a higher power, the spirit of the universe, or nature itself, know that we were equipped for this journey from the moment we were born.

You are enough. We are enough.

As we step into this new year, let it be a choice for creativity, possibility, and hope.


Happy New Year! The future is ours to create.


"Bad things are happening loudly- the injury, the flat tire, the mistake that gets you criticised. Everybody talks about the moments that make things a hassle.

Good things always happen quietly - the completed workout, the healthy meal, the ten minutes of writing. Nobody talks about the little moments that add up."

                             - James Clear 

Monday, December 16, 2024

The Idea of Love.

 Love or The Idea of Love.


" You know, it’s quite a job starting to love somebody. You have to have energy, generosity, blindness. 

There is even a moment, in the very beginning, when you have to jump across a precipice: if you think about it you don’t do it.”

— Jean-Paul Sartre 

Procrustes & Theseus











Whether we know it or not, Love or the idea of love has been brutalised, bastardised and misconceived at best. 

Whether it's through the well-intentioned but ill-conceived notion from our parents or the glorification and gross misrepresentation through the media, chiefly Hollywood, our innate sense of love has been culled, trimmed, shaped even castrated to fit the proverbial Bed of Procrustes

The fable of the evil Procrustes who ran an inn in the middle of nowhere, sat and entertained his guests with food and wine until they were satiated and drunk then he'd 'fit' them onto his iron bed by tying their limbs to the four corners of the bed and chopping them off if they were too long or stretching them out if too short. This gruesome scenario pretty much sums up how we were educated and how we educate our young on everything including love. 

The idea of love may have worked for some who have gone before us, but they would be the exception because overall results then and now are far from satisfactory seeing the increasing rates of separation, divorce and conflict amongst family. The root cause of all the pain and suffering is the idea of love preached from the onset, was one of a conditional or transactional kind. "I will love you only if you always make me happy.." or "I love you but you need to change your habits...or better yet "I will love you if you obey me.." Most of us have seen or heard these words uttered in front of or behind the children.

When love becomes a transaction, it is commercialised, monetised, prostituted, and sold to the highest bidder. That's why some people wear their spouses like badges, as arm-candy and acquisitions who are willing (or unwilling) participants in this charade. Until...

When the music dies, the lights go down, the curtains fall, in the quiet moments we feel a sense of emptiness, dissatisfaction, dis-ease, even despair and doubt if the person we've ended up with, truly knows us or loves us. Or whether we truly know or love the person we've committed to spend a lifetime with? In short are we happy? The answer is perhaps no. Simply because if happiness is tied to another, to an external entity, how can anyone be happy? 

True happiness comes from within. Like love it starts from within. 

Loving oneself must precede loving anyone else. Even loving your parents is self love because without their care, we couldn't survive. That in part is why we came here alone, to go out into the big bad world alone, loving and taking care of oneself instead of relying on others. Taking care of oneself invariably leads to knowing oneself. 

When one is truly and fully acquainted with oneself, one is then fully and truly comfortable with oneself to be or live alone, even in solitude. There is no need for company for one discovers that one is better off alone than in unwanted company. One then is able to listen deeply within to discern between thoughts and feelings, joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, success and failure, right and wrong and not be swept away by all these imposters. One learns to overcome the craving for another's company, for reciprocity, fear of rejection, social validation, because once self love is installed, self worth and independence is realised. 

Then the individual understands that to love another, one must first love oneself, then turn one's attention to the other. One begins to understand the other, listening to what is being said and observing everything that is happening in the other. In short to be fully present is to be fully engaged with the other. Only when one truly understands the other, can one fully appreciate the other and love unconditionally. 


~ A Declaration of Unconditional Love ~

I love you as you are and for who you are. 

I love you for all the pain you have suffered in this life or before, inflicted by others or by me. 

When I say I love you it means that I love you unconditionally with no conditions whatsoever. 

My love for you is purely that- my love for you, it requires not that you love me in return.  

My love for you doesn't require that you be with me always but I shall be with you for as long as you want me to, as long as I can.

I love you as I see and love myself in you. For there is no greater love than loving oneself. 


Unconditional love is the holy grail of love that frees us from the fetters than bind us to each other. 

Love is love, unconditional or otherwise, to love is to be free. 

Freedom of expression, of movement, of choice and freedom to love others. 

Procured only after deep understanding of self and the other, against the backdrop of this ephemeral world, we understand that it is the soul's purpose for liberation, to be free, not to be bound to anything or anyone. 

Because the self is only limited to a body and a mind made of this world, whereas the higher self transcends body and mind, seeks the oneness to return, from whence we came.  

 



" Fall in love with yourself, with life, and then with whomever you want." ~ Frida Kahlo.