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Sunday, November 10, 2024

One Lazy Sunday Afternoon.


Lazy Sunday Afternoons.

*Batik Painting by Chuah Thean Teng




















 

Not to be mistaken for lazy Saturday afternoons or any lazy afternoon, the lazy Sunday afternoon is special if not spiritual in very many little ways. 

 

Apart from having to be on Sunday, the lazy part is largely accessed via feelings, emotions and experience. Lazy is in the sense of being aware but disenchanted. It is a moment where time stands still or at least drags on with a long languid languor of purposelessness. Usually imbued with heat and humidity - hence afternoon, one is caught in a situation one is inextricably part of, even though there’s really nothing happening. The situation as it happens, happens by unfolding unplanned.  A situation within a situation, if you get my drift. 

 

Visualise a situation in real life, in a café by the street, at the seaside, poolside, or simply gazing at nature, where you get to be the observer observing yourself in it. 

It is a scene where everything happens as it should, nothing is amiss. Like a scene in a movie setting waiting for something to happen except nothing happens… not a word is said.

Here is where Sunday makes its distinction, being the sabbath, a holiday largely observed, most people are not bustling about at work or in traffic. Some are cooling off in an after-lunch siesta. Few if none are required in the scene as stillness directs.

This little window of inactivity on a lazy Sunday afternoon is a sweet spot for observers of nothing, at the same time it is ‘full of life’ for the observant. 

 

A childhood memory of such an instance brings me back many years to when I was 7 or 8. It is our family homestead where just three of us were cast in an idyllic scene that framed the perfect lazy Sunday afternoon for me. 

A large luscious lawn spreading out under several coconut palms, under the shade of a short one, sat my mother slicing coconut fronds with a small sharp knife stripping them to their thin stems. The dogs are taking refuge from the heat under the house, my older sister then only a teenager, cradled my head on her knee, using a tiny wooden ear digger exploring my inner ears for wax. My mother while slicing deftly, was surveying the surroundings looking for stray chickens, goats or cows that may wander into our compound. My sister deeply engrossed with the insides of my ear, forced me to keep completely still, only allowing me to take in the entire scene lying on my side as if it was my job to capture, frame and archive this subliminally. While variations of this scene happened several times before at our home, it was this particular situation that stayed with me all these years. Perhaps I was fully engaged with all my senses in that moment feeling a deep sense of connection to the ladies of the house who took care of me. But it wasn’t just about the ladies in the scene as I recall the entire vignette comprising even the smells and texture of the grass, trees, plants, shrubs, background fence, including the large Chiku tree at the end of the fence gently stirring in the afternoon breeze. It was a periphery vision that I had tuned into. A sort of floodlight vision that augmented my spotlight vision that afforded me an expansive even oceanic feel to experiencing the life I was living. 


On that lazy Sunday afternoon, I felt I had a place in this big, complicated, and mysterious world I was thrust into. I felt safe coupled with deep physical and emotional comfort not fully comprehending then, that what I felt was love. 





*Batik painting featured - Chuah Thean Teng, Malaysian artist born 1914 in Fujian, China is widely regarded as the "father of batik art" who developed batik as a means of painting;[1] "his adaptation of the traditional batik medium into an accepted form of painting ... elevated the status of batik as a craft to an art medium."[5]


Friday, June 30, 2023

I love you. June

June /dʒuːn/ noun

the sixth month of the year, in the northern hemisphere usually considered the first month of summer.
"the roses flower in June"

Photo by Tuân Nguyễn Minh on Unsplash
























We are at the end of the first six months of the year although I felt as if I have just welcomed January not long ago posted <here>. 

Seems time has literally flown spent virtually doing “nothing”
And by painstakingly doing nothing, and waiting.
Not just waiting twiddling my thumbs but waiting in a state of flow. 
Of equanimity. Of sitting with oneself in silence and solitude. 
Of not running away from oneself but sitting with one's pain. Befriending it. 
Breaching the void, enjoying it and it's impermanence. 

What a beautiful month June has blossomed into. 
Truly “roses flower in June”
Stillness is truly the superactivity of the source. 

And what a year it has been, getting to take stock at the half-way mark. 

I am prepping and bracing myself for the next half. 
And I know well enough the main aim is to take care of my physical body. 
Now that my spiritual body is strong, I am also ready, willing and able to face the months ahead one day at a time. 

As they say in sports; Let's go out and win the race. 

Have a great second half of the year. 


Sunday, May 30, 2021

I love you. Meditation #4

 A Meditation Sutra.










Be. The Observer of the thinker.

Be. The Observer of the meditator.

Observe. The Silence.

Be Aware.

Be Stillness.

Be Consciousness.

Hold Space

And Connect to the source.

Be One with The All.


*Notes to the sutra,

Meditation is like a luxury indulgence. It's the equivalent of taking a cigarette break, or a slow gentle hit from a nice joint. Only better. It is spending precious moments with oneself in solitude. 

Meditation is not about focussing on anything, instead it is about releasing and letting go of your mind and body. And reaching a point of no mind and no body-  getting in touch with our inner self which is formless and nameless. 

It is often described as the Oneness with everything around you. In fact the feeling is to be experienced, no words or no mind can describe. If you can describe it then you are still holding on to mind concepts. 

If at all you need to focus on anything, take your time and center yourself on the gentle awareness of your breathing in the background. 

How do you know if it worked? You will lose your anxieties, worries, fear, and anger. Feel calmer and more energised with acute consciousness.


To end, I like to quote one of the most influential author, activist and forward thinkers of our time; Marianne Williamson on twitter today. 

"If you don't meditate I don't know how you're enduring this moment in history"

 

- @marwilliamson


More on Meditation in previous Meditation #3 here > Stillness



Saturday, May 29, 2021

I love you. Success #1

 The definition of a successful life. Now.

Image by PineForest














There is no need to wait until a ripe old age to assess if you have lived a successful life. You can do it now.

Ultimately life as we know it, boils down to three simple questions. 

Just answer these three questions with as much clarity as possible.


1. Where do I live?

2. Who am I with?

3. What am I doing?



These are the notes to guide you in the assessment;


Today we deal with the first.


Question 1 simply covers all aspects from where, to what sort of conditions, to how close to your dream abode are you living in.

This is the most important question because; Where I live determines where I am now. 

Right now is where life happens. The place, the conditions and how close to my dream abode all must contribute to my wellbeing, no matter how humble. Or opulent. 

It doesn't matter whether I own the place I live in. 

The key is my physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well being.

I may live in the slums yet I am happy. Likewise I may live in the swankiest neighbourhood in a palatial mansion but I may not be happy. 

This is how I benchmark my success against "Where I live?" 

- Is safety a tried and tested feature? 

We are responsible for our own safety- external & internal 

- Do my surroundings contribute to my overall peace of mind? 

Do the premises allow for physical activities, to move around to exercise. 

To be close enough to the community to not have to intrude and be intruded upon?

- Is the space within the walls conducive to my wellbeing?  

Can I conduct my personal pursuits and daily rituals in total silence and in absolute privacy? 

Can I play my music anytime. And loud? 

- Am I close to nature and space? 

Being from nature we need to connect with the source and free ourselves from time to time. 


Where do you live?




Sunday, October 25, 2020

I love you. Be Still.

 Stillness is Meditation #3

Photo by Huper by Joshua Earle on Unsplash



Stillness is the nature of the source. 

Activity is the nature of the surface. 


Stillness is super dynamism. 

Every activity with any intensity will exhaust you. 


Stillness is building a bridge between the physical and non physical.

With super dynamic activity by being absolutely still. 


Yoga is a form of meditation and meditation is a form of yoga. 

Yoga simply means union. 

It is the union of all of our sense perceptions with the inner being or the cosmos. 

It is intense and relaxed at the same time. 


Access stillness through Meditation. 

Maintain a certain tension in body. Stare at a space then breathe slowly relaxing your breath, eyes, moving from the top of the head down to the toes for 11-21 minutes. 


Life is about enhancing perceptions. When you build a bridge from the physical with the non physical - core of who you are, you are not prejudiced with life. 

You will see everyone as an aspect of you.